From Tragedy to Truth:

The Coach Who Lost Nearly Everything and Found The Right Path Forward

Coach Mark Barstow

Who I Am    

  • Dad to three grown daughters
  • Founder & director of a 120-voice rock choir
  • Trainer, facilitator, and entertainer of 30+ years
  • Former Corporate IT leader of 25+ years
  • Brain cancer survivor
  • ADHDer diagnosed in adulthood as a major lifequake approached
  • Certified Master Life Coach & NLP Practitioner
  • ADHD Coaches Organization Member
  • ADHD Pathfinders Founder

My ADHD Lifequake Story

  • On paper: Successful Corporate IT Director
  • In reality: Exhausted Imposter
    • Trying to hide my chaos and overwhelm
    • Beating myself up for being "undisciplined" 
    • Powering through burnout and work I’d outgrown 
     
  • I was put on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP). It was the second one in 2 years. 
     
    • My doctor called the first PIP “basically an ADHD diagnosis.” 
    • I got fired before approved ADHD accommodations began. 
  • Within two weeks, my wife left me. She'd fallen for someone else. 
    • My lack of planning, organizing, follow-through, and other skills made her function as my caregiver and executive assistant for decades. 
    • My intensity, emotional expressiveness, and external processing overwhelmed her quiet, internal processing style, leaving her no space to find her own voice or needs.
  • My career + my family crumbled in the lifequake.
   

My Transformation


In the wake of the disaster, I made an all-in commitment to transformation.

  • Dug into an ADHD treatment program with a psychologist
  • Partnered with my own ADHD coach to decode my brain
  • Trained and transformed in programs with Tony Robbins, Simon Sinek, Dean Graziosi, Ilana Golan, Calvin Coyles, Barbara Cohen, and others.
  • Discovered my purpose, my power, my passion, and my partnership with my brain. (Your brain is always listening, and it's taking orders!)
  • Earned two Life Coaching certifications & two NLP Practitioner certifications
  • Became an ADHD Coaches Organization member
  • Founded ADHD Pathfinders to help others like you navigate from secretly struggling to openly flourishing—without the pain and loss I suffered.
  • Started the Is It ADHD? program to help people out there struggling like I was with no explanation why, a poor understanding of their own brain, 
  • Started the End Overwhelm. End Shame. program to help people with ADHD (regardless of diagnosis status) transform into the best version of themselves
  • Started ADHD Pathfinders Workshops to help organizations, teams, and employees transform ADHD in the workplace from struggle to strategy
 
 

How I Show Up

    The best way for me to convey the experience you'll have when we team up to make great things happen is to share the top five values that drive me and my work:
    Compassion: I believe transformation happens through compassion without judgment. Every interaction is guided by genuine care for your success and well-being.

    Authenticity:
     After decades of hiding in shame, I know the exhaustion of pretending to be something you’re not. I help you remove your masks and start to flourish as your true self.

    Growth: 
    I’m committed to continuous learning and evolution, both for myself and my clients. Stagnation isn’t an option when there’s always another level of breakthrough waiting!

    Service:
     My mission and passion is to help ADHDers break free from the systems, stories, and critics that once restricted them, and guide their transformation into people who won't ever be confined again... ideally, before tragedy strikes in their lives. 

    Honesty
    : I’ll tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Real change requires real truth, and I won’t waste your time or money with false encouragement.